A Spiritually Enlightening Online Magazine. Sept. Theme: "Sexuality" Volume 1 Issue 6 ISSN# 1708-3265

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Imagine a very sensual atmosphere. Perhaps there's candles lit, maybe a blanket on the beach. It's a hot muggy night, the kind that makes you want to take your clothes off. Fortunately for you, in this fantasy you can have complete privacy by removing all the other people, (or add some for a bit of added allure and excitement!)

The electricity in the air is so charged with sexuality your skin feels every molecule brushing up against it. You remember that feeling don't you? When you meet someone special and just sitting beside him almost brings you to orgasm? You find yourself beside a stream in the tall grasses, naked because you just can't wait any longer to feel him inside of you.

In those first few weeks of this new relationship you find EVERYTHING romantic and sensual. He calls to say he's on his way over and you run around lighting candles and incense, putting on something sheer and sexy. You look in the mirror to make sure your hair is giving you the look you desire. You already spent two hours bathing with essential oils, shaving around and in between your legs… making sure you are soft and silky for his touch.

Then there's the cream you rubbed all over your skin to further enhance it's softness. After all, you want him to desire you as much as you do him. It's an intoxicating process. The natural drugs your brain is releasing give you a buzz without any added intoxicants from outside.

You hear the knock on the door and turn the stereo on as you glide across the floor to greet him. Falling into his arms, his senses take in every smell, the softness of the lighting and your skin.

Then two months go by. He calls and says he's coming over; you hang up the phone and continue reading your book until he arrives. He just walks in and sits down on the couch next to you, reaching for the remote…

So what changed? Why did it change? Why did you let it change?

Life happens. It begins to creep into the places where the highly charged sexual desires lived. Instead of thinking about his touch when you are apart, you think about the laundry. So keeping the sensual elements of your relationship alive isn't something which will happen on it's own… you need to make it happen.

Setting aside a night, now and again… taking the time you took when you were first together, going through the same ritual is so important. It doesn't matter how long you've been together - keeping the sexual part of your relationship alive creates a much more deeply committed relationship for you both.

Some people feel they need to break up with the old partner and find someone else to feel the spark again. You don't. You just need to allow your mind to be in the same space… because honestly, it's all in your state of mind. If you are thinking about making dinner instead of making 'sex' - unless you are doing a tantric feeding (blindfolding your partner and feeding him sensual foods by hand), your experience isn't going to be the same as when you are 100 % focused on the pleasure of your partner.

If you focus on pleasuring your partner in every way you can during your lovemaking… and they focus on pleasuring you completely… then both of you get great sex - rather than laying there waiting for them to do step one, step two, step three and we're done.

So spice it up, add some ice chips and fresh berries to your lovemaking. Pull your partner (and yourself) out of the same old same old…

I promise you won't regret it!



Aleesha Stephenson is the Publisher, Editor, Graphic and Web Designer as well as a Regular Columnist for Timeless Spirit Magazine.

She is also the Executive Director and Publicist for "Magi's Magick Spells".

An Eclectic Wiccan Practitioner, Reiki Master/Teacher and Faery Shaman, she home-schools two of her three spiritually enlightened children as her eldest has graduated and moved on to the school of life. Friend (and mother) to them all, she is also a life-partner to her husband David. Her life truly is filled with light.

You can contact Aleesha via email.

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